Insecurities. We all have them. My personal insecurities are not something that I typically dive into on this blog, particularly because I like to keep it a happy haven that’s focused on the positive. However, I do recognize the importance of being honest about myself, so when Maya organized a group of bloggers to unite about our personal insecurities, I welcomed it with open arms.
Often, what’s portrayed online is not an accurate depiction of real life, and I’d love to share with you one of the things that causes me to be less than confident, particularly in regards to blogging. This is not a fish for compliments or a self-bashing seminar – it’s simply aimed to be open and truthful about the realities of insecurities and that everyone has them, no matter how big or small, particularly as it relates to beauty.
My chosen topic: Wrinkles.
Aging is such a blessing, but when it comes to beauty, it can be hard to accept. With my 28th birthday freshly behind me, I see signs of aging starting to appear. One area that I have insecurities about is my forehead. I’ve always been an expressive individual, and when I talk my forehead is constantly used. These expressions and a deep love for sunshine has inevitably led to (what I perceive as) deeper wrinkles than other women my age.
|A recent outfit post outtake in which forehead wrinkles (and a zit or two – eek!) can be seen.|
This all probably sounds so silly, because in reality I’ve been told that my wrinkles are hardly noticeable. (Yes, I’ve stalked my loved ones about the topic.) In photographs, most of the time the lighting is forgiving and you can’t really tell, but it’s definitely something that I am aware of, particularly when I post outfit photos.
Though I am relatively young, I do think that wrinkles are something that many women my age (and older!) can relate to. The transition from early-twenties-and-no-wrinkles-in-sight to late-twenties-and-uh-oh-they’re-showing can be tough. It’s the first time I’ve had the “Oh, crap…I’m aging” thought. Before, it never even crossed my mind.
When I’m feeling insecure about the topic, I remind myself that aging is natural and beautiful. I admire women who age with grace, and even as my wrinkles start to show more, I try to keep in mind that it’s not a bad thing. In fact, though I perceive them as flaws on myself, I see wrinkles as beautiful on others. Isn’t it funny how that works? Everyone tends to be their own harshest critic, and I’m sure that in my case this is occurring as well. I also keep in mind that wrinkles are hardly ever something that I notice on other people, so why would that be something that others notice about me?
I also dabble in facial creams. No shame there. I recently started using Atralin, which is a vitamin-A based gel that helps your skin renew itself. It was prescribed to me before my wedding to help with acne (a whole other area of insecurity), but to my pleasant surprise it also helps with fine lines. I’ve definitely seen an improvement! Do you have other creams that you like? I’d love to hear your recommendations.
I’m proud to be a part of something that’s bigger than just Isn’t That Charming while joining with this movement. The more we share, the more we empower one another to love our “flaws” that really are not flaws at all, and I hope that by opening up about one of my beauty insecurities, I’ve helped you (even if in a small way) to embrace your own. Be sure to swing by Maya’s blog to check out the link up of other bloggers who’ve joined in on the Real Blogger Beauty movement today. There are some amazing stories being told.